I watched this movie yesterday and i was so torn up. Please, don’t trust imdb when it says the genre is a drama comedy. Whoever thinks so must have a twisted sense of humor, me think. lol.
The movie revolves around the world of an autistic boy (who’s a prodigy in Math) named Nathan Ellis. Anyway, i like this movie for several reasons:
- i love Math, regardless of how it kills the love ruthlessly every time i try to ‘reach out’ to it. Lol.
- the soundtrack! Keaton Henson is a hella tearjerker-song maker.
- I always thought it must be difficult to deal with children with special need, children with autism, but i never really get the gravity of it. This movie shows how emotionally as well as physically challenging and taxing the reality is. It’s difficult enough to deal with normal kids, let alone ones within the spectrum. These children have different ways in seeing the world, different languages to make sense of the things around them. If the parents failed to talk in the same wavelength as theirs, it would be a constant frustration day in day out.
- Also, throughout the movie i didn’t even have to try to understand how scary the world for the kids. For them, it must be full of chaos, disorder, and potential danger: the unknowns, the germs, all the things that make them feel itchy inside.
- Another thing that the movie so eloquently portrays is that some normal process for other kids — such as feeling something — does not occur naturally for them. It took years for Nathan Ellis to learn how to feel, that when the dad died it was grieving he’s been feeling, to know (or feel) sadness, to like other people (you like a person more than you do an ice cream, for example), and to feel hurt. When those feelings strike, they find it hard to make sense of them. This brought me to:
- a while back a little chitchat with people at Caravanserai taught me that a part of child’s development is owning up to their emotion. Children should be taught to be aware, to recognize, and identify their feelings since only then they could learn how to deal with them so that (public) tantrum (as a form of child’s frustration) could be avoided (here’s a resource to do that). Parents with children within spectrum must find a common language to communicate and teach them this. As the case in Nathan Ellis, the language is math.
Nathan: Zhang Mei said that she liked me.
Mother: Right. That’s a… That’s a good thing, isn’t it?
And do you… Do you think that you might… have those kind of feelings, too?
Nathan: I don’t know.
Nathan: I’ve been trying to work it out. But…
I found a formula. I just can’t understand it.
Mother: Well, as far as I know, Nathan,
no one ever has.
Nathan: I know that when… When I’m around her, my brain works differently. And my body feels strange and I don’t know what it means or why it matters. Why it matters?
Mother: It matters because…
When somebody loves you,
it means that they see something in you…
That they think is worth something.
So it sort of… It adds value to you.
But it can be hard… You know, when you love someone and they… They show no sign that they love you back, then ifs… Then it’s unequal. Or, um…When… When someone you love…ls subtracted from you… Then it feels like, you know, that your value is less than it was.
Does that make sense?
All in all, the movie is awesome. 10/10 would watch again.